Like penciling in a child’s growth-chart, I marked its
height against the kitchen window panes. It grew so tall, I had to move it to another room. What
power lies curled up in any flower bulb, but especially in an amaryllis!
In writing that word, I was taken by the name of this
four-fold flower: Amarylis…A Mary Lis…A Mary lily.
My favorite image of Mary and her son is this one—a Russian
icon. Perhaps the oldest icon in existence. In fact, legend has it that before
it went from Jerusalem, to Constantinople and finally to Russia, (copied
several times) it was in the disciple Luke’s home, for he painted it on a table
top.
In this month of valentines , I turn again to Kathleen
McGowen’s second book called, appropriately enough, The Book of Love. I often sign my name to letters and e-
mails with the phrase, “Loving thoughts.” I suppose it’s my way of saying, love is all around us, so let’s
draw it into our consciousness.
McGowen reviews six expressions of love, and attaches a Greek name to each. I don’t speak or write
Greek, but I love the sounds as they roll off my tongue. So I’ll include them
here and you can roll them around a bit yourself.
Agape—This is the great joy we find in each other and in the
world that feels like a spiritual expression—a sacred embrace.
Philia—This is profound friendship, full of respect. It’s
what siblings often feel for one another. It’s true companionshp.
Charis—This is parental love defined by grace and devotion. It’s the love we see coming right out of Luke’s painting
of Mary and her son.
Eunoia—This is the love we have for one another out of deep
compassion and commitment to service. We saw this love expressed in Haiti recently—it’s
where community lies.
Storge—This is a pure love full of tenderness and caring.
It’s profound empathy. It’s how we love children. And animals. And our world.
Eros—And finally we come to the cupid-arrow-shooting kind of "Valentine Love." At a very deep level, it’s
the love two people have for one another when their souls come together in a profound
union.
I was struck, not only by the intense redness of my “Mary Lily” but by the fact that it was four-fold. Four is a number that brings a deep
feeling of peace and calm. We’re
comfortable with fours—four directions, four limbs on our bodies. Even our DNA,
biologists tell us, is based on combinations of “four.” Pythagoras, that old,
old source of number-meanings declared the four powers of the soul to be mind,
science, opinion and sense.
A friend sent me this image the other day to remind me that
tomatoes have four chambers just like our hearts, and eating them can be very
heart-beneficial.
I took it as a
valentine 4 me! And now, 4 U.
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